Sometimes, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. New research backs me up on this one.
In a study of 170 undergraduate students, researchers at the University of Missouri found 35 percent had rebound sex “to cope with distress and to get over the ex-partner” within a month of a failed relationship. The study appears in February’s issue of the Archives of Sexual Behavior. Among other things, it says people who sought out fast love “to cope with negative feelings… were more likely to have sex with a stranger and to continue having sex with new partners over time.”
Over the last six-months, I’ve been distracting my heart and entertaining my body with men (many, many men). Rebound sex offers us a way to fill the void. It’s liberating, makes you feel attractive again, even confident. Putting the instant gratification aside, it’s affirming to feel that touch. And on that level, what we really have here is “sexual healing.”
“Whenever blue teardrops are falling and my emotional stability is leaving me, there is something I can do. ” Take it away, Marvin Gaye!